Parenting Styles

by Debbie Twomey on February 7, 2013

Family portrait 1975

Who knew they had a name for the various Parenting Styles? I know my parents just did what they knew or where they came from. How they parented had no name.
I mean does someone really set out a plan for the style of parenting they will be using—set up a chart and all? I have to wonder what happens when things get crazy and that style is not working—do they improvise or what?
 
When you have a child the one thing you discover is that advice is overflowing and acceptance optional. Experience teaches in ways books cannot so never totally disregard well meaning people. There are many sources you can pull from and various parenting techniques to decide upon. It is a personal choice.
 
What is your Parenting Style? I guess mine was a little bit of everything I had acquired through the years and so much I would try to avoid.
 
My parents did not have a style and yes, they made many mistakes. Their “parenting style” was a combination of their parent’s ways of raising kids. They would be considered flawed by most standards but they did teach us right and wrong and a few other valuable lessons. I have heard many of my generations say “at least we survived our parents.”
 
My style was less strict but for many years I carried on habits I never even realized I had retained even though I did not like them. It took me a few trial and errors before I figured out my own style. And as with most things, mine certainly was not perfect.
 
There are some methods I was unfamiliar with and surprised to discover. I think most of us have taken a few of each and incorporated for ourselves.  I do not promote any of these styles, just mentioning a few I never knew had a name.
 
See where you fit in. Parenting Styles:
 
Extended Breast feeding—breast feeding past the age of 1 as determined by individual parents.
Attachment Parenting—Also known as “responsive parenting” this is where a parent responds to their child’s every need, with the intention of creating a closer bond with their child.
Uninvolved—this is where a parent will put their life before their child’s and though they provide for basic needs (food ,shelter etc) there is not much interacting with their child.
Authoritarian—this is considered a very strict parenting style with high expectations but short on communication between parent and child. Another trait is there is no discussion and parents do not feel the need to supply reasoning for any rules and there can be severe punishments.
Permissive—parenting style that allows a child to make their own choices and have little to no expectations. The parent becomes the “friend.”
Authoritative—(the style I am most familiar with), this is where parents are attentive to their child’s needs, teach rules and values, expect “proper” behaviors, and have a system of reinforcement and reward.
 
I have taken a seminar on The Nurtured Heart Approach(Howard Glasser)
 The Nurtured Heart Approach is a set of strategies that builds richer relationships. It inspires appropriate behaviors by energizing children when things are “going right” and it sets clear limits. By implementing this simple framework, phenomenal results follow: peaceful home or classroom environment, less referrals for medication, higher test scores, improved social skills, richer “time in,’ intensity used in creative rather than destructive ways and more. With the NHA a child builds a sense of Inner Wealth which is the basis for great decision making and success—critical for all children in the modern world.
 
 
Wendy’s training addressed stressed out Christian parents and those that care for children. Her approach is meant to increase children and young teen’s engagement with parents in a nurturing manner. The goal is to guide and inspire your child’s inner resources and have it used in healthy ways meant to assist them in successful and life enriching ways. I do integrate a few of her strategies because I believe they instill a strength and sense of responsibility in a child.
 
Being a parent means you will have a huge impact on all aspects of a child’s life. I believe most parents combine one or more of the parenting styles mentioned above. Whatever your choice, it is essential that your goal is to help your child develop into a healthy, happy and productive human being with a strong wholesome bond to their parents.
 
 
 

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