Resolution Smesolution!

by Debbie Twomey on January 1, 2014


Goodbye 2013

Once again another year ends and as a new one begins, we are reflective of what was and what will be. Sound profound? Actually it truly is.

So many times in the past I have made resolutions only to break them not long into the New Year. I stopped making them last year and thought “sure took me long enough.” It was like getting let off the hook finally.

Now if I did not stay on a diet, or swore or whatever I had resolved to do I had no guilt because I was not breaking anything—except maybe my spirit. Did you ever wonder why we make resolutions in the first place?

Shortened version of its origins:  The ancient Babylonians made promises to their gods at the start of each year that they would return borrowed objects and pay their debts.[2]

The Romans began each year by making promises to the god Janus, for whom the month of January is named.[3]

In the Medieval era, the knights took the "peacock vow" at the end of the Christmas season each year to re-affirm their commitment to chivalry.[2]

At watchnight services, many Christians prepare for the year ahead by praying and making these resolutions.[4]

There are other religious parallels to this tradition. During Judaism's New Year, Rosh Hashanah, through the High Holidays and culminating in Yom Kippur (the Day of Atonement), one is to reflect upon one's wrongdoings over the year and both seek and offer forgiveness. People may act similarly during the Catholic fasting period of Lent, though the motive behind this holiday is more of sacrifice than of responsibility, in fact the practice of New Year's resolutions partially came from the Lenten sacrifices.[4] The concept, regardless of creed, is to reflect upon self-improvement annually.'s_resolution

Some of the modern day resolutions are: improve physical well-being, exercise, eat healthier or lose weight, stop bad habits like smoking or drinking, laugh more, think positive, improve our finances or make a major change, pray more, stop procrastinating, find love,  take a trip and so many others meant to change what we did the previous year.

Personally I am tired of disappointing myself and feeling like a failure when I do not keep the resolutions I set for myself. So I stopped. But as in life all things move forward so to think I should remain as I was the year before is not very productive. Not that 2013 was a bad year. For me, it was the year of beginnings—my social media business is starting to take off and my Young Living is not only a healthier alternative to medicines but a financial investment I am learning about all the time.

A resolution (oath or vow are similar words) is a firm decision, determined and made purposely.  A promise (oath, pledge, and vow are also similar words) is not only a pledge but it has potential. Both words indicate an agreement between yourself and your resolve to change, add to, subtract from, replace or improve your present situation.

So, what would it take for me to not only make a promise but follow through with that resolution? Or is it a lost cause? I mean I do believe I have never truly stuck to any resolution I made so why pretend otherwise?!

Instead I prefer to concentrate on 2013 and what I accomplished. I made it through the year, that is number one. By that I mean I am alive, I am fairly healthy and in one piece. There were times I felt otherwise but they were just small roadblocks that could not stop the forward momentum.

I was gifted an opportunity to invest in my financial future, one I intend to expand and increase. This was probably the single most generous gift I have ever received and I want to make the best of the bequest.

I was encouraged every day by my friends/employers, Starrhost. This alone has absolutely no price tag. As a result I trained with Sandi Krakwoski this year and will utilize what I have learned to boost my Social Media business and increase products that interest customers.

I spent precious time with dear friends and created many cherished memories. I invested in myself as a person and a trusted friend and received a hefty dividend. The only sad moments in this year of valuable friendships was saying goodbye to cherished friends Frank and Randy. There are days my heart still longs to see them.

 We had to say “See Ya Later” to the Carter’s who left for Florida in November. We miss walking out the door and seeing them daily but I am thankful for Skype and knowing the connection is for a lifetime.

There were other events that made a difference on my life but none more than the year spent with Miss McKenna Elise Rose Twomey. She is now two years old and I have had the honor and pleasure of watching her grow and change every single day. Dear God, I am so grateful to you for this privilege. Even on nights when I drag myself to bed exhausted I pray to God and thank Him for this time and having such an important role in her developing life. And I pray to God I do it right and her life is less of a struggle than her mother’s. I pray this nightly.

Do I wish for more? Of course I do, who does not? But my dreams and hopes have evolved over the years and are less materialistic than they once were. My dreams are for contentment, for security and for patience and love to overcome whatever comes my way. I dream of making my business a success and helping so many others get their visions realized. I dream of sharing Young Living’s benefits with those struggling with health and wellness concerns.

I dream of shedding weight (my number 1 troublesome area) and feeling energetic enough to take Miss McKenna to Disney World. I dream of one day finding a home on one level with all the qualities I require for comfort and contentment.

In looking back on 2013 I feel I took the first step towards these dreams and feel no need to put pressure on myself to make any sort of resolution for 2014. The reasons are quite clear to me—I will always look ahead and keep striving in that direction with self confidence and strength. I will try all I can to make a success of whatever endeavor I attempt.

Resolution Smesolution—-I have no need to make myself promises. I will do what I set out to do and that is to improve, introduce, increase, invent and impart. And I will prosper. In doing so I will stumble but never fall, worry but never give up and pray to God for guidance and strength.

Happy New Year and may you be blessed in 2014.


NEW YEARHello 2014


"I have dedicated my life to the care and welfare of children. I feel privileged to share what I have learned with you. I am also committed to continuously learning.iStock_000004213744XSmall  I will keep informed of the latest information in parenting children from newborns to teens and pass it on to all of you.”   I will also use that same passion to help you create a dynasty generate increases in your business with straightforward and specialized media managing skills that guarantee your connection and scope will grow. Keep up to date reading our posts and discover valuable insights that can make parenting and succeeding in the business of the blogger– the most exciting adventure. (Debbie Twomey)


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Roxanne January 1, 2014 at 2:51 pm

My Word of the day: serment – oath


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